Top 11 Keys To A Healthy Relationship

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Ladies, you know there is nothing worse jumping into a relationship without letting the luggage go from your past relationships. Not every relationship is for you. Lets face it, you are not going to marry every person you date. I haven’t been in many relationships, but in the relationships I have been in I try to take  each experience as a lesson learned. Broken relationships can teach you a lot about yourself.

Communication is a key part to building a healthy relationship. The first step towards building a healthy relationship is making sure you and your partner are on the same page. Sit down and talk about the current status of the situation.

The first step is making sure you both want and expect the same things — being on the same page is very important. The following tips have helped me create and maintain a healthy relationship and can help you too…

  • Speak up- In a healthy relationship, if something is bothering you, it’s best to talk about it instead of holding it in. Talk with your partner, express how you feel without using the phrase ‘you’. When saying statements like “you did this” will cause the person you are talking to, to shut down and often leaves them feeling like they are the reason to blame for everything. Even though you may feel like saying “you did me wrong”, instead try explaining the way you feel and what occurred for you to feel that way.
  • Listen Carefully-Don’t plan what to say next while you’re trying to listen. Don’t interrupt. Many men communicate non-verbally. Be sure to Listen to your partner, listening sends the message that you care and that you are truly interested in the other person’s ideas.
  • Say, “I’m sorry” – When you know you are wrong, don’t be afraid to admit it. A simple sorry can go a long way.
  •  Respect- Your partner’s wishes and feelings have value. If one person desires respect then that person must be willing to give respect. Mutual respect is essential in maintaining healthy relationships.
  • Compromise- Disagreements are a natural part of healthy relationships, but it’s important that you find a way to compromise if you disagree on something. Try to solve conflicts in a way where both partners are satisfied. Any oppress person will rebel. Be flexible and negotiable.
  • Be Supportive. Offer reassurance and encouragement to your partner. Also, let your partner know when you need their support. Healthy relationships are about building each other up, not putting each other down. Be his number one cheerleader.
  • Privacy- Just because you’re in a relationship, doesn’t mean you have to share everything. Don’t ask your partner for a password to his social media accounts or his phone. If you do not trust him, then more then likely you shouldn’t be with him. A Healthy relationship cant grow without trust.
  • Know the person you are with- In order to know who you are with it has to be an ongoing development of knowledge that you are forever a student of the person you are loving. The minute you feel you are the professor and not interested then the relationship will fall. Get to know them again. Periodically go through the whole romance process again. Be willing to adjust, negotiate and do not harden your heart.
  • Take care of you- Don’t lose yourself while you are trying to please others. If your not happy with yourself, how do expect to make someone else happy?
  • How to filter space– Do not crowd the person where they cannot breathe. REMEMBER THIS PERSON WAS AN INDIVIDUAL BEFORE YOU WERE WITH THEM! Also, know too much space will damage a relationship. The problem is getting too use the space because you are teaching the person how to live without you.
  • Life lessons- Life will either pull you together or push you apart. Tough times either pulls you together or push you apart. Are you growing together or growing apart? You both will change but the change should pull you together.

Creating boundaries is a good way to keep your relationship healthy and secure. By setting boundaries together, you can both have a deeper understanding of the type of relationship that you and your partner want. Boundaries are not meant to make you feel trapped or like you’re “walking on eggshells.”

A healthy relationship is formed when two individuals  respect and love one another. It can only occur when each individual takes care of himself first, which will, in turn, help both of them take care of each other. Through communication, honesty and emotional support your are well on your way to building a healthy relationship.