Being Gay in Black America


NFL player, Michael Sam made has made a very important announcement that changed the history of sports, becoming the first openly gay player. The a defensive lineman from Missouri who publicly came out as gay struggles to be accepted by his own father.

According to the New York Times, Sam Sr. said he was enjoying his birthday at Denny’s when he received a text message that read, “Dad, I’m gay”.

“I couldn’t eat no more, so I went to Applebee’s to have drinks,” Sam Sr. told The New York Times. “I don’t want my grand kids raised in that kind of environment.”

Only time will tell if he father will grow to accept that fact that is son is a gay man but in the mean time I would suggest Sam would have a one on one conversation with his father. Text messages are not the best way to communicate such personal information in a delicate situation.

Do you remember hearing the story of Kordale and Kaleb, a young black gay couple raising their children together as a family? Together for three years, Kordale, 24, of Chicago, and Kaleb, 24, an Atlanta native, one cold night in January they became poplar overnight  they posted a picture on Instagram of themselves in the bathroom, doing their little girls  hair. The photo went viral as soon as it social media, causing some hateful backlash.

 Some people wonder why there is so much tension when blacks open up about being gay.

 Truth is same-sex relationships are a hard topic to discuss among the black community.


Kordal and Kaleb is not the only couple to openly display their relationship. However they are seen as breaking the barriers of all stereotypes about gay relationships and black men, the proud dads are changing the way many people see blended families in America.

With support for LGBT culture growing, a result in part of efforts to end assaults and bullying of members of that group. Some would hope people would be more acceptable to the relationship Kordal and Kaleb have with their children and that more people would accept the sexual orientation of Michael Sam.

What can be done to evolve perceptions of the gay community among African-Americans?

The roots of homophobia in the black community remain embedded in the notion of what it means to be a man, but specifically a black man. We look at a black man being a physically strong individual who is the bread winner of the family and takes care of his lady. Women are looked upon as caregivers of the children. So, what happens when the man steps in and plays the role of the mother? In the case of Kordal and Kalebi, the two men are man willing step up and perform duties that the mother normally does and love the child. Does being gay make them any less of a man?

 Is it time to confront homophobia in America? Michael Sam thinks it’s time. Perhaps the biggest question: If Sam can play with the best of the best, how can anyone in the world define him as less than a man?